To Have

That is a good point Nick.  I'm not trying to have any little Benton's running around but condoms aren't the only thing to help prevent having a child. There is also birth control, one of the best inventions made.  But I do agree with you Nick.  I also want to wait to have a kid, so I can afford and support him/her. But I believe that premarital sex will better prepare me to support the kid with a stronger family.

Say I am dating a girl now and have been for a while.  We love each other and want to take it to the next step and get a feel for that deep intimacy.  The two of us don't feel that we are ready for marriage, so what do we do?  We have sex.  We experience everything together.  I know this sounds bad, but sex is a big part in relationships.  Girls don't like to admit and neither do some guys, but if the sex is bad, a relationship or in this case, a MARRIAGE, it won't be as strong.  That is why some refer to it as "making love."  If the sex is bad, all the couple will be doing is breaking love instead of making it.  Experience the sex now before disaster strikes later.